GUIDELINES FOR FAMILIES
by Dr. Christopher S. Amenson
What You Can Do
Keep the family strong.
Keep yourselves happy and healthy. Take care of each other and encourage
- Support the one who has psychotic
Love and accept him as he is now (or her as she is now)
Help him or her find good treatment. Provide a healing family atmosphere.
How to Create a Healing
- Love and accept the person who has
psychotic symptoms as he or she is now, ill. Don't expect him or her to
feel and act well all the time.
- Blame the illness, not the person, for
the symptoms. It is not deliberate misbehavior.
- Set realistic, reachable goals.
- Include the person who has psychotic
symptoms in the family.
- Keep a loving distance. Be close, but
not too close.
- Keep a calm atmosphere without
FAMlLY COMMUNICATION SKILLS
- To get a person to do more of
something, make a positive request:
- Look at the person.
- Tell them the good feeling it would give you if they
did what you want.
- Say exactly what you would like them to do.
I would like you
I would really
appreciate it if you would__________________
It would make me
feel good if you would___________
It's very important
to me that you help me with the_____
- To get a person to do less of
something, express negative feelings calmly.
- Look at the person. Speak firmly.
- Say exactly what you want to have the person
- Tell them the bad feeling you get when they do
the thing you don't like.
- Suggest how they might keep this from happening
in the future.
It makes me very sad when you sleep
until noon. Please get up at 11:00 AM.
It makes me very anxious when you
yell at me. Please sit down with me and tell me calmly
- Handle only one thing per session.
Do not mix praise and criticism, as in
"Thanks for washing the dishes, but there is still
egg on the forks".
- Set limits to head off serious problems.
- Be clear and specific about what is
- Remain calm but firm.
You can not live at home unless you
take your medicine.